The Far Side of Grief

You know those movie scenes where a couple, or a family, or a group of teenagers is happily riding along in a car and out of nowhere – WHAM! – their vehicle is struck by another?  Flying glass, screeching tires, crunching metal. Lives turned upside down in an instant.  Sudden, unexpected, intense.  That’s what grief […]

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Visit from A Happy Man

This morning, I ran my Saturday morning errands alone, the first time in a very long time I’ve done “our” routine by myself.  Although nothing we did was exciting, and generally calling it “mundane” may have been a stretch (bank, grocery store, car wash), we were together and made the best of it.  Have you […]

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Remember I Love You

There are many places we didn’t go Many things we didn’t do But that’s not what I’ll focus on When I think of you.   There are roads we’ve never traveled Things we couldn’t buy And yet despite the things we lacked Still that’s not why I’ll cry   Instead I’ll mourn the things we […]

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Déja Vu

The recent time I spent in the hospital brought back a lot of old memories and I couldn’t help thinking about the similarities and differences between my husband’s and my father’s illnesses and passings. Back in late 1996, my father went to the emergency room because he was having difficulty breathing.  I won’t dredge up […]

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The First Lady

Today was the first of “the firsts”. You know how after someone passes you suddenly have to celebrate each special occasion without him? Or you go to that favorite restaurant without her? Today, we celebrated our daughter’s 23rd birthday, and she has the dubious distinction of being the “first of ‘the firsts’”. Obviously more firsts […]

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Hobo No More

I put on make-up today for the first time in several weeks.  Well… maybe the term “make-up” is a bit of a stretch.  Mascara.  I put on mascara.  But it’s a start.  And earrings, too.  And a skirt instead of yoga pants, which have been my go-to fashion of late.  I’ve cared too little about […]

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The Way It All Began

Many moons ago (and I’m not telling exactly how many… mainly because I don’t feel like doing the math), this gorgeous, dark-haired hunk walked into my high school cafeteria after classes were done and waited for me to walk out of the gym where I had been playing intramural volleyball. As I exited the door, […]

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