Shoulder to Lean On

There have been many articles, books, blog posts and a great deal of advice on what to say and do when someone loses a loved one.  I’m not sure mine will offer anything new, but perhaps it might make an impression simply by being packaged in a new way. Here are some suggestions about what […]

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It’s Tough to Be a Middow©

I thought it was just me, that perhaps I was having a such a hard time dealing with the loss of my husband because I am overly sensitive or incapable of doing this alone or for some other reason of inadequacy.  Turns out it isn’t just me.  It seems that women my age are more […]

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Roller Coaster Ride

While I’ve previously provided the Cliff Notes version of how I got here, I decided it was time to lay out a day-by-day outline of the two weeks my husband spent in the hospital before he ultimately passed away. Having a large family and lots of concerned friends who lived in another part of the […]

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Déja Vu

The recent time I spent in the hospital brought back a lot of old memories and I couldn’t help thinking about the similarities and differences between my husband’s and my father’s illnesses and passings. Back in late 1996, my father went to the emergency room because he was having difficulty breathing.  I won’t dredge up […]

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The First Lady

Today was the first of “the firsts”. You know how after someone passes you suddenly have to celebrate each special occasion without him? Or you go to that favorite restaurant without her? Today, we celebrated our daughter’s 23rd birthday, and she has the dubious distinction of being the “first of ‘the firsts’”. Obviously more firsts […]

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